Saturday, February 25, 2012

Parent ??

I have been thinking about this alot lately so thought I would post it here.
Yes, I gave birth to a child. Am I a mother ? That sounds strange to some but I have conflicting thoughts on this. I don't have other children to parent so being a parent is somehow different for me.
I see pics of my son and find myself in awe that I actually carried him for 9 months. I look at him now and can't believe that he is a part of me. What parts of him are me and what parts of him are from his family ?
When I have a visit I sit and just stare at him because it is just amazing that I am a part of this person.
Hence the question Am I a parent ? Is the term parent only reserved for those who are raising their children ? Does mother or father fit those who gave birth but do not parent ?

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

My secret life as a birthmom: Secrets of being a birthmother

My secret life as a birthmom: Secrets of being a birthmother: In the past few days I have really given alot of thought to the meausres I have taken to keep the birth and adoption of my son a "sercret". ...

Secrets of being a birthmother

In the past few days I have really given alot of thought to the meausres I have taken to keep the birth and adoption of my son a "sercret".
The one thing that really stuck out for me was I actually have 2 Facebook accounts. I have one for all of my friends in the adoption community and another for my general friends, family and my son's family.
I wish I could combin the two but so many things are private and I don't feel comfortable sharing all of my thoughts etc. on the journey I have been on the past 4 years.
Does anyone else go to the measures I have to protect my privacy?